My somewhat bi-polar 3 year old

2 posts in 1 week – I’m determined to keep up with it this time!

Up until a few weeks ago, we were feeling pretty proud of our parenting abilities – we’d managed to get to age 3 w/o any major issues.  About 2 weeks before the end of school, she started challenging us at every turn!  Routine tasks have been met with anger and frustration.  “Time to brush your teeth.”  “NO I DON’T WANT TO BRUSH MY TEETH. YOU CAN BOSS ME AROUND.” “It’s not OK to hit people.” “I DON’T LIKE YOU ANYMORE!” And I could go on and on.

What is going on??  75% of the time, she’s a fun-loving child who gets along with everyone, shares well, and is very polite (both to us and others!).  I feel as though I have to tread carefully around situations so as not to ‘flip a switch’ and deal with one of her tantrums!  Is there something I can do to avoid these tantrums?  Or are we in fact incredibly LUCKY to have such a mild mannered child that this is what I consider “wild” when most kids act like this all the time?  I hate feeling like I’m always on her case and yelling at her (which is what we tell her NOT to do but in fact we are hypocrites and do it when we become frustrated…what else to do?)…I only feel like a good parent when she’s happy…but when she’s frustrated and angry, I feel like I’m failing…

 

I guess I should feel fortunate to feel like a good parent at all!

Getting back in the game!

After a 2 year hiatus, my fellow moms out there have motivated me to start posting once again!

A lot has happened in the past 2 years…we now have a 3.75 year old AND a 1 year old, my how time flies! Where to begin…

I’m now working 5 days a week (vs 3 days with our first (miss m)), and I’m surprised to find I actually prefer to working more days. I like having the additional responsibility given to someone in the office daily vs PT. This is going to sound completely crazy (especially given what I just said), but I wanted to quit for the first 6 months back from maternity leave. I felt so guilty leaving miss c (our 2nd child) at daycare 5 days a week – it broke my heart to know I was spending less time with her than I did with m. When I had to work late, I wanted to cry. I was completely overcome with guilt. I really, honestly and truly, don’t know what happened, but eventually I began to feel less guilty. I felt like I could balance work and family life – and still go on date nights with my hubby. Is it time? Is it a busier workload? Is it the now two active toddlers that make me long for ‘me time’ at work? I’m not sure, but I’d love to hear from others and their experience!

Need Suggestions on Potty Training in a Small Daycare

I am extremely blessed to work in a small company that opened a daycare for its employees.  We have run into a few hurdles along the way:  dealing with different nap schedules, different discipline techniques, and negligence, to name a few.  Currently, there are two toddlers and one infant in the daycare and the issue we’re baffled by at the moment is that of potty training. Teaching bear to go potty

Here’s the situation: The daycare has two rooms, one playroom and one sleep room with a small closet, which are connected.  There is one provider with the children at all times.  The bathroom is down the hallway, making it difficult to take all three children if the older toddler, who is potty training, has to go to the bathroom.  Right now, we have a potty chair in the closet (in the sleep room) which is fine except for when either of the other children are sleeping.  We don’t want to put the potty chair into the sleep room for sanitary reasons.  We thought about putting the potty chair into the hallway, but since it’s an office, men are often walking the hallways and we don’t want out little ones half naked around them.

What to do?!: We really need some advice!  Is there anything that has worked for you?  We can put the two kids in their pack-and-plays while the older one goes potty with the daycare provider, however, if the potty process takes a long time (right now it takes @15-20 minutes) this is not a viable option – we don’t want the provider to leave any of the children unattended for that long.  Help!

Toddler Sleep Issues – Need Help!

A friend of mine is stumped (and stressed!).  She went through a divorce about a year ago and now she has twin, 4 1/2 year old girls who will not sleep in their own beds.  Every night, they come into her room and want to sleep in her bed – with or without her!  She has tried taking them back into their room and reassuring them that they’ll be ok but this has not worked.

Any suggestions?

I am going completely crazy right now as the Twinkies have decided to re-institute past sleeping issues?! They are 4.5 yr old twins, and just don’t want to sleep in their room! Usually, one is worse than the other (or if it’s not one, it’s the other – hopefully that made sense). When they were sick the past few times (uhhh… MONTHS!) I did let them sleep with me and now they only want to sleep in my bed. I don’t even have to be in it! Although, it always starts with them asking me to stay in their room or wanting to sleep with me. And how do you explain WHY they can’t sleep with me? They will go to bed and fall asleep in their room, but it’s just a matter of time before I hear the pitter pat of their tiny little feet and my door swings open. Last night, Lily literally came in every 5 mins, starting at 10:30PM (Bedtime is always 7:30-8PM) until 2:30AM, when I finally put her in my bed and went to sleep in the guest bedroom – never a peep after that. Of course Ava woke up and
realized Lily was in my room and then she needed to get in bed with her. And sometimes the tantrums when I refuse are so bad that I fear my neighbors are going to call the cops as they scream “MOMMIE” for an hour (obviously, we have VERY thin walls here!). My room is DARK, I need to keep a light on in the hallway/door open for their room??? I cannot believe it because I have always been against allowing kids in the bed and I don’t know if I have just unraveled all these years of good practices or if something else is going on with them. The screaming, crying, begging just breaks my heart and I usually end up crying as well. I don’t yell, I just very calmly try to walk them back to their beds, assure them how much I love them and that I am right across the hall. Times are very stressful right now as I am unemployed single mom but I try NOT to show any fear or anxious emotion around them. Their dad has been gone for almost two years so I don’t think it has anything to do with that?
Plus, he and I have an awesome relationship and co-parent very effectively. Comments????

Tasty & Easy Recipe for the Busy Parent

Pot Roast

Pot Roast

I was never much of a cook until I had a child and she began eating “table food”. Since this milestone, I have managed to cook dinner every night of the work week. Quite the feat for me, especially considering I work and had never cooked a dish more complicated than perogies prior to having a child. Since time these days is sparse and extremely valuable, I’ve had to find ways to create easy but healthy dinners (which I thought I’d share with you!).

I always make extra for lunch the next day which has also helped us to save money during these tough times.

Enjoy!

Tasty & Easy: Slow Cooker Pot Roast

- 2 (10.75 ounce) cans condensed cream of mushroom soup
– 1 (1 ounce) package dry onion soup mix **
– 1 1/4 cups water
– 5 1/2 pounds pot roast

**If you do not have a package of dry onion soup mix, you can make your own! mix 4 tsp Instant beef bouillon granules, 8 tsp Dried minced onion (or you can use chopped onion), 1 tsp Onion powder

1. In a bowl, mix cream of mushroom soup, dry onion soup mix and water. Place pot roast in slow cooker and coat with soup mixture.
2. Cook on High setting for 3 to 4 hours, or on Low setting for 8 to 9 hours.

Product Recalls

1. State Farm(r) Recalls Good Neigh Bears(r) Due to Choking Hazard

2. Nordstrom Recalls Girl’s Shoes Due to Violation of Lead Paint Standard

Product Recalls 3/12/09

1. NEWS from CPSC and HC
U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission http://www.cpsc.gov
Health Canada http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

March 11, 2009
Release # 09-146

Firm’s Recall Hotline: (888) 808-3111
CPSC Recall Hotline: (800) 638-2772
CPSC Media Contact: (301) 504-7908
HC Media Contact: (613) 957-2983

Infantino Recalls Infant Toys Due to Choking Hazard

WASHINGTON, D.C. – The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission and Health Canada, in cooperation with the firm named below, today announced a voluntary recall of the following consumer product. Consumers should stop using recalled products immediately unless otherwise instructed.

Name of product: Infant Toys

Units: About 172,000 in the United States, and 12,000 in Canada

Distributor: Infantino LLC, of San Diego, Calif.

Hazard: The infant toys have blue metallic fabric that can detach from the toy, posing a choking hazard to young children.

Incidents/Injuries: The firm has received 45 reports of the metallic fabric detaching from the toys. No injuries have been reported.

Description: The recalled infant toys and their model numbers are listed below.

Name of Toy / Model Number
Infantino Lil’ Chef Set / 158-201 and 558-201
Infantino Activity Stacker / 158-202
Infantino Tag Along Chime Trio / 150-3092

The model number is located on a yellow tag on the toy.

Sold at: Babies “R” Us, Target, Wal-Mart, Meijer and other specialty stores from June 2007 through February 2009 for between $10 and $20.

Manufactured in: China

Remedy: Consumers should immediately take the recalled toys away from young children and contact Infantino for a free replacement toy or product.

Consumer Contact: For additional information, contact Infantino toll-free at (888) 808-3111 between 8 a.m. and 4 p.m. PT Monday through Friday, or visit the firm’s Web site at http://www.infantino.com

Note: Health Canada’s press release is available at http://209.217.71.106/PR/recall-retrait-e.jsp?re_id=689

To see this recall on CPSC’s web site, including pictures of the recalled products, please go to:

http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/prhtml09/09146.html

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2. News from CPSC
U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission
Office of Information and Public Affairs
Washington, DC 20207

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
March 11, 2009
Release # 09-148

Firm’s Recall Hotline: (877) 755-4882
CPSC Recall Hotline: (800) 638-2772
CPSC Media Contact: (301) 504-7908

Ice Skates Recalled by Pronto Sports Due to Violation of Lead Paint Standard

WASHINGTON, D.C. – The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, in cooperation with the firm named below, today announced a voluntary recall of the following consumer product. Consumers should stop using recalled products immediately unless otherwise instructed.

Name of product: DBX Glide Boys Ice Skates

Units: About 600 pairs

Distributor: Pronto Sports Inc., of Anoka, Minn.

Hazard: Surface paint on the ice skates contains excessive levels of lead, violating the federal lead paint standard.

Incidents/Injuries: None reported.

Description: The recalled youth adjustable boys ice skates are black with lime green and silver accents. “Glide” is printed on a rubber tag on the side of the skates. “DBX” and the DBX logo are located on the ice skate’s ankle powerstrap, tongue, and heel.

Sold at: Dick’s Sporting Goods nationwide from September 2008 through December 2008 for between $30 and $60.

Manufactured in: China

Remedy: Consumers should immediately take the recalled ice skates away from children and contact Pronto Sports for a full refund.

Contact: For additional information, contact Pronto Sports toll-free at (877) 755-4882 between 9 a.m. and 4 p.m. CT Monday through Friday, or visit the firm’s Web site at http://www.prontosports.com

To see this recall on CPSC’s web site, including a picture of the recalled product, please go to:

http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/prhtml09/09148.html

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